When I married my wife, I gained two additional parents, and one additional sister. For 15+ years, I did not make the most of that, and ascribed my less-than-perfect relationship michigas to all of them. Now, my mother-in-law has passed on, and I am finally seeing the error in my ways. I feel very close to my father-in-law, even though he and I have very different views on many things, including eating and peace, etc. I am growing as a person because I can accept him, and his love, and offer mine, without judgement (sometimes). Now, I will try to reach out to my sister-in-law. What are other people learning out there?